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If you are in passionate love and want to celebrate your passion, read poetry. If your ardor has calmed and you want to understand your evolving relationship, read psychology. But if you have just ended a relationship and would like to believe you are better off without love, read philosophy.

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Jonathan Haidt
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 19
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New York City
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