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You may wish to be loving - you may even try with all your might - but your love will never be pure unless you are free from resentment. When we are free from resentment, loving is effortless. When we have to try hard to love, this is generally a sign that we are repressing our resentments.

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John Gray
Age: 72
Born: 1951
Born: December 28
Author
Family Therapist
Psychotherapist
Writer
Houston
Texas
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