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We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave me. Because I don't really think you want me anyhow.'

Iyanla Vanzant

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Iyanla Vanzant
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: September 13
Motivational Speaker
Spiritual Teacher
Writer
Brooklyn
New York
Rhonda Eva Harris
Think
Tendencies
Thinking
Behave
People
Test
Tests
Leave
Really
Anyhow
Always
Tendency
Love
Badly

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