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You know when I was 20 and 30, they were insecurities. Now they're just a new normal. I'm 60 years old, so my expectations of who I am and how I look and how I show up in the world had to shift. Not because I couldn't help it, or not because I did anything wrong, but because I had to get into the natural flow of my being as a woman.

Iyanla Vanzant

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Iyanla Vanzant
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: September 13
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When we pray, it opens our minds to the divine consciousness of God. Prayer opens your mind to answers that have always been present.
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In order to feel loved, be respected and stay connected, we humans have a tendency to lie. We lie about who we are, what we want, what we need, what we have done or will do. Perhaps 'lie' is too strong a word. Let me say that what we do is withhold the truth.
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It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.
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