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One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.

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Iyanla Vanzant
Age: 71
Born: 1953
Born: September 13
Motivational Speaker
Spiritual Teacher
Writer
Brooklyn
New York
Rhonda Eva Harris
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