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Mature love is loving, not being loved.

Irvin D. Yalom

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Irvin D. Yalom
Age: 93
Born: 1931
Born: June 13
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Existential Therapist
Psychiatrist
Psychologist
Psychotherapist
University Teacher
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Washington
District of Columbia
Irvin David Yalom
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled ... by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential. Many people are in despair because their dreams didn't come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true. A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world. And if you do the latter, you're not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one's germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves, when we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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If we climb high enough, we will reach a height from which tragedy ceases to look tragic.
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When people don't have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish. Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless. I'm still learning.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door. Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness. Hidden in disguise, leaking out in a variety of symptoms. It is the wellspring of many of our worries, stresses, and conflicts.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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... sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning?
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Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life. This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.
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