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Letting people in is largely a matter of not expending the energy to keep them out.

Hugh Prather

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Hugh Prather
Age: 72 †
Born: 1938
Born: January 23
Died: 2010
Died: November 15
Writer
Hugh Edmondson Prather III
Energy
Keep
Matter
People
Expending
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Letting

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