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If your reaction to your partner's fear-or any other form of distress- is disdain or irritation, you do not want oneness or even friendship with your partner at that moment.

Hugh Prather

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Hugh Prather
Age: 72 †
Born: 1938
Born: January 23
Died: 2010
Died: November 15
Writer
Hugh Edmondson Prather III
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Disdain
Fear
Oneness
Moments
Distress
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Partner
Even
Reaction
Reactions
Partners
Friendship
Irritation

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