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Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
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Vicksburg
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If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.
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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Encourage literally came from in courage. The courage is put into you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Oftentimes, churches are started by an entrepreneurial church plant visionary whom everybody follows, but he's not following anybody. Even though he's accountable to a board, he's really not. Authority's a good thing, and if it's not forced upon you as a leader, then I suggest, strongly, that you go buy some.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
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Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
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If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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The business of church is ultimately people. You're trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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A leader's responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
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When leaders lead in ways that people's brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we're going to need the next day.
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Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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Training moments occur when both parents and children do their jobs. The parent's job is to make the rule. The child's job is to break the rule. The parent then corrects and disciplines. The child breaks the rule again, and the parent manages the consequences and empathy that then turn the rule into reality and internal structure for the child.
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When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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