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For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
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Vicksburg
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