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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
Psychologist
Vicksburg
Mississippi
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It’s scary to realize that the only thing holding our friends to us isn’t our performance, or our lovability, or their guilt, or their obligation. The only thing that will keep them calling, spending time with us, and putting up with us is love. And that’s the one thing we can’t control.
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If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is.
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For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
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If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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There's no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children's most primitive fears.
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Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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When leaders lead in ways that people's brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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