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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
Psychologist
Vicksburg
Mississippi
Growth
Steps
Needed
Purpose
Pain
Endured
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When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.
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Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is.
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If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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When a person travels through a few years with an organization, or with a partnership, or any other kind of working association, he leaves a 'wake' behind in these two areas, task and relationship: what did he accomplish and how did he deal with people?
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It’s scary to realize that the only thing holding our friends to us isn’t our performance, or our lovability, or their guilt, or their obligation. The only thing that will keep them calling, spending time with us, and putting up with us is love. And that’s the one thing we can’t control.
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In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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Training moments occur when both parents and children do their jobs. The parent's job is to make the rule. The child's job is to break the rule. The parent then corrects and disciplines. The child breaks the rule again, and the parent manages the consequences and empathy that then turn the rule into reality and internal structure for the child.
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The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
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The business of church is ultimately people. You're trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders spend all of their time helping and growing other people, they ignore their own growth.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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There's no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
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One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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