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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
Psychologist
Vicksburg
Mississippi
Growth
Steps
Needed
Purpose
Pain
Endured
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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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