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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
Psychologist
Vicksburg
Mississippi
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Encourage literally came from in courage. The courage is put into you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
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If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.
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You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
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True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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It’s scary to realize that the only thing holding our friends to us isn’t our performance, or our lovability, or their guilt, or their obligation. The only thing that will keep them calling, spending time with us, and putting up with us is love. And that’s the one thing we can’t control.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
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The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
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A person who hasn't grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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That is why success and fruitfulness depend as much upon focusing on the who you are as much as the what of the work you do. Invest in your character, and it will give you the returns that you are looking for by only investing in the work itself. You can't do the latter without the former.
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Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is.
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