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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
Preacher
Psychologist
Vicksburg
Mississippi
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The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.
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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.
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Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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When a person travels through a few years with an organization, or with a partnership, or any other kind of working association, he leaves a 'wake' behind in these two areas, task and relationship: what did he accomplish and how did he deal with people?
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True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is.
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If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.
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If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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