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We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

Henry Cloud

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Henry Cloud
Age: 68
Born: 1956
Born: March 17
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Oftentimes, churches are started by an entrepreneurial church plant visionary whom everybody follows, but he's not following anybody. Even though he's accountable to a board, he's really not. Authority's a good thing, and if it's not forced upon you as a leader, then I suggest, strongly, that you go buy some.
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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
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It is true that you get what you tolerate.
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