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There's magic to love... Millions of years ago we evolved three basic drives: the sex love, romantic love, and attachment to a long-term partner. These circuits are deeply embedded in the human brian. They're going to survive as long as our species survive on what Shakespeare called, this mortal coil.

Helen Fisher

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Helen Fisher
Age: 77
Born: 1947
Born: May 31
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A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.
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