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You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.

Helen Fisher

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Helen Fisher
Age: 77
Born: 1947
Born: May 31
Anthropologist
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