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We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.

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Helen Fisher
Age: 77
Born: 1947
Born: May 31
Anthropologist
Scientist
Manhattan borough
New York City
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