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We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.

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Helen Fisher
Age: 77
Born: 1947
Born: May 31
Anthropologist
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Manhattan borough
New York City
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Helen E Fisher
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As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.
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You can get into a very fancy car and know everything about the engine, but when you drive in that car, you feel that rush. In the same way, I think the more you know about love, the more you can enjoy it. And knowing about your personality type, who you are and what kind of person you're dealing with gives you a great leg up.
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Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.
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Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.
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People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms - for love.
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Men are so visual, they see a woman who appeals to them physically, and it will trigger the romantic love system faster.
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There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.
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Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live.
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What our grandmothers told us about playing hard to get is true. The whole point of the game is to impress and capture. It's not about honesty. Many men and women, when they're playing the courtship game, deceive so they can win. Novelty, excitement and danger drive up dopamine in the brain. And both sexes brag.
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Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There's almost no overlap.
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There's magic to love... Millions of years ago we evolved three basic drives: the sex love, romantic love, and attachment to a long-term partner. These circuits are deeply embedded in the human brian. They're going to survive as long as our species survive on what Shakespeare called, this mortal coil.
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Both sexes like the exercise and challenge of sports, but for men it's also a basic display behavior for impressing and winning a mate.
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When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.
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People live for love. They kill for love. They die for love. They have songs, poems, novels, sculptures, paintings, myths, legends. It's one of the most powerful brain systems on Earth for both great joy and great sorrow.
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Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.
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Neither gender is routinely more jealous - although women are more willing to work to win back a lover, while men tend to flaunt their money and status and are more likely to walk out to protect their self-esteem or save face.
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Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.
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People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.
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From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.
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If we remained perpetually infatuated, we couldn't eat, sleep or work.
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