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Your unhappiness doesn't help anyone else - and in fact, as I mentioned in another answer, happy people are more altruistically inclined. So happiness is not a selfish goal.

Gretchen Rubin

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Gretchen Rubin
Age: 59
Born: 1965
Born: December 14
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Kansas City
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