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One of the findings that really interests me is that, although we think we ACT because of the way we FEEL, we often FEEL because of the way we ACT. So an almost uncanny way to change your feelings is to act the way you WISH you felt.

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Gretchen Rubin
Age: 58
Born: 1965
Born: December 14
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Kansas City
Missouri
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