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Feelings follow actions. If I'm feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I'm feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.

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Gretchen Rubin
Age: 59
Born: 1965
Born: December 14
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Kansas City
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