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The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not going to change until they are pushed in a corner.
Gary Chapman
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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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