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This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only realize this, but you have to practice this.

Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
Author
Radio Personality
Writer
Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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