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I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic or living with a depressed spouse for a long time, you are just going to be unhappy.

Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Radio Personality
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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