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The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.

Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
Author
Radio Personality
Writer
Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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Objects
Getting
Wells
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Love
Romantic

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We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history.
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Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.
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We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature,we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic.
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