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Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
Author
Radio Personality
Writer
Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
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Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty LOVE TANK.
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Love is a choice you make everyday.
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We can choose the attitude that says, I have been wronged. People have hurt me, but with the help of God, I am going to learn how to return good for evil, and I am going to make a difference in this world.
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Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.
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Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with sound character.
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