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Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Radio Personality
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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The pattern often has been entrenched since childhood... [abusive people] don't think that there is anything wrong with them because that is the way they were brought up in their family.
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Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.
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A soft answer turns away anger.
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The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.
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Sex is the joining of two bodies love is the joining of two souls.
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