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..there is hope. That's the marvelous thing about being human. We can change our future. We need not be enslaved by the experiences of the past. We can learn to love even when we have not received love.

Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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