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We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature,we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic.

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Radio Personality
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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