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People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.
Gary Chapman
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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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