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Real love - This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.

Gary Chapman

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Gary Chapman
Age: 86
Born: 1938
Born: January 10
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Radio Personality
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Winston-Salem
North Carolina
Gary Demonte Chapman
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