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one forgives parents as naturally as one emancipates oneself from them - usually shortly afterward.

Francine du Plessix Gray

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Francine du Plessix Gray
Age: 88 †
Born: 1930
Born: September 25
Died: 2019
Died: January 13
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Oh, save me God, but not quite yet.
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I was just reviewed by Robert Gottlieb, who was my editor at 'The New Yorker,' and he sort of wondered at the fact that I still need to exorcise my parents at my age. I think he makes a basic mistake in thinking that exorcism can ever be total. The exorcism of your parents will still be occurring on your own deathbed.
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I shall never cease to marvel at the way we beg for love and tyranny.
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I didn't find this memoir of these two eccentric people so different from doing my memoirs of De Sade or Simone Weil. My parents in their own way are as odd as Sade.
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Friendship is by its very nature freer of deceit than any other relationship we can know because it is the bond least affected by striving for power, physical pleasure, or material profit, most liberated from any oath of duty or of constancy. With Eros the body stands naked, in friendship our spirit is denuded.
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I write because in the act of creation there comes that mysterious, abundant sense of being both parent and child I am giving birth to an Other and simultaneously being reborn as a child in the playground of creation.
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I think it's one of the reasons I wrote my book later in life. My parents didn't have these extreme alternations of conduct. They were very sweet to me.
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We write out of revenge against reality, to dream and enter the lives of others.
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Why are there no great women artists?' sounds as ignorant of human geography as the query 'Why are there no Eskimo tennis teams?
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As to why people like Joseph Lelyveld are writing memoirs, I think they're just catching on the coattails of the trend.
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One learns much more by writing fiction, because the insights come from those deeper subconscious levels where the greater and more interesting truths lie.
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Art is both a vengeance against reality and a reconciliation with it.
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