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Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me.
Esther Perel
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Esther Perel
Age: 66
Born: 1958
Born: January 1
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When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.
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You know what happens to sex in marriage? Instead of inviting desire, you monitor it. Especially men: You let her sleep late, you take the kids to the park, and all that time you're thinking, Tonight I'll get some. That doesn't work.
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What is the relationship between love and desire? How do they relate, and how do they conflict? ... Therein lies the mystery of eroticism.
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Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are.
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In committed sex, in marriage, people don't feel the need to seduce or to build anticipation - - that's an effort they think they no longer need to do now that they have conquered their partner. If they're in the mood, their partner should be too.
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Love enjoys knowing everything about you desire needs mystery.
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Are you asking a question because you want to know the answer or are you asking the question because you want your partner to know that you are having this question?
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Affairs can be powerful detonators. They can invigorate a marriage that's flat, jolt people out of years of complacency. Fear of loss rekindles desire, makes people have conversations they haven't had in years, takes them out of their contrived illusion of safety.
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Sometimes it has to do with other longings that are much more existential. Sometimes you go elsewhere not because you are not liking the one you are with you are not liking the person you have become.
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