Objectivity is the subject subjugating the object. That is how you assert yourself. You make yourself the active voice and the object is the passive no-voice.

I thought narcissism was about self-love till someone told me there is a flip side to it... It is unrequited self-love.

I once had a man break up with me. He said I was using him because right after making love I would weigh myself.

Here's how I see obesity: as a symptom. The larger problem is over-consumption. In a society that identifies consumption with patriotism, valorizes 'growth' above all else and assigns status according to how much you consume, we compete with each other to see who can consume the most.