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My generation is the first in my species to have put fitness next to godliness on the scale of things. Keeping in shape has become the imperative of our middle age. The heaviest burden of guilt we carry into our forties is flab. Our sense of failure is measured by the grade on a stress test.

Ellen Goodman

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Ellen Goodman
Age: 83
Born: 1941
Born: April 11
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