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The great myth of our work-intense era is 'quality time.' We believe we can make up for the loss of days or hours, especially with each other, by concentrated minutes. But ultimately there is no way to do one-minute mothering. There is no way to pay attention in a hurry.

Ellen Goodman

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Ellen Goodman
Age: 83
Born: 1941
Born: April 11
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