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The truth is that we can overhaul our surroundings, renovate our environment, talk a new game, join a new club, far more easily than we can change the way we respond emotionally. It is easier to change behavior than feelings about that behavior.

Ellen Goodman

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Ellen Goodman
Age: 83
Born: 1941
Born: April 11
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