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We criticize mothers for closeness. We criticize fathers for distance. How many of us have expected less from our fathers and appreciated what they gave us more? How many of us always let them off the hook?

Ellen Goodman

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Ellen Goodman
Age: 83
Born: 1941
Born: April 11
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