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It can be the best of relationships and the worst of relationships - often at the same time. The bond between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest, but it's also among the most complicated.
Deborah Tannen
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Deborah Tannen
Age: 79
Born: 1945
Born: June 7
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Deborah Frances Tannen
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