Quote

But an apology too — you think you’re giving something, but you’re not. You’re really asking for something. You’re asking for forgiveness, you’re asking for the other injured person to make it okay for you. Apologies were harder work for the person getting one than the person giving one.

Deb Caletti

Change background

T
T
T

Change font

TAGS & TOPICS

Deb Caletti
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: June 16
Novelist
Writer
San Rafael
California
Person
Injured
Giving
Apology
Work
Forgiveness
Something
Asking
Really
Harder
Make
Okay
Think
Getting
Thinking
Persons
Apologies

More quotes by Deb Caletti

Image
Hurt is a weapon. Better weapon than most because it doesn't look like one.
Deb Caletti
Image
It was all the things you could never understand and could never possess that made you ache.
Deb Caletti
Image
I tended to give a book a chance and another chance and another, sometimes seeing it all the way to the end, still hoping for for it turn out different. Maybe I was confused about what you owed a book. What you owed people, for that matter, real or fictional.
Deb Caletti
Image
Accents are funny in that they have this odd draw for us, yet we forget we have one, too. No one is without an accent, but the one you’ve got seems like oatmeal to their caviar.
Deb Caletti
Image
I know parental embarrassment usually stops somewhere at fifteen, but he just kept on giving me good reasons.
Deb Caletti
Image
There are so many different fifteens. And eighteens. And forty-twos, for that matter. Mature fifteens and young fifteens and wise fifteens and lost fifteens. And angry fifteens.
Deb Caletti
Image
It made me wonder how many times we forgive just because we don't want to lose someone, even if they don't deserve our forgiveness.
Deb Caletti
Image
I finally learned that it was all right to say something wasn’t working for me when it wasn’t working. The world doesn’t come crashing down when you speak the truth.
Deb Caletti
Image
It was possible, maybe, to have facts in your mind that weren't facts at all. You could build a whole life's story on false assumptions. You could make truths out of untruths and untruths out of truths. Until you spoke them, really said them out loud or checked for sure, you may not have known which were which.
Deb Caletti
Image
She would bring you some great book because she was a book matchmaker, because she loved books the way other girls loved clothes.
Deb Caletti
Image
You were a stone wall, a fort in high, unreachable trees, an island, my own island, that no boat could reach.
Deb Caletti
Image
Stories took twists and turns down fairy-tale paths or down very human everyday ones. You think you’re at the end of the book, and it’s only the end of a chapter.
Deb Caletti
Image
Blessed books—they’re a place to be alone, and no one else can come in.
Deb Caletti
Image
The scariest part of forever is that nothing is.
Deb Caletti
Image
I could forget that part, but it had to have been true.
Deb Caletti
Image
Fear was the biggest bullshitter, he’d said. But sometimes, too, fear told the truth.
Deb Caletti
Image
Empathy took the edge off, and the truth is, we need our edge. Our edge is trying to speak to us, and we are too, too good at shutting it up.
Deb Caletti
Image
I don’t know why we do it. But sometimes we just swim straight for the net.
Deb Caletti
Image
Maybe some people just had trouble with forever.
Deb Caletti
Image
To an untrained eye, need and love were as easily mistaken for each other as the real master's painting and a forgery.
Deb Caletti