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Whoever has the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you try to dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolve conflict, not how to start it.

Daniel Goleman

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Daniel Goleman
Age: 78
Born: 1946
Born: March 7
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Psychologist
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