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Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes them strive to justify themselves. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts their sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

Dale Carnegie

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Dale Carnegie
Age: 66 †
Born: 1888
Born: November 24
Died: 1955
Died: November 1
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Motivational Speaker
Psychologist
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Maryville
Missouri
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