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You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.

Cheryl Strayed

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Cheryl Strayed
Age: 56
Born: 1968
Born: September 17
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