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Plan your own vacations when you want to, and plan a suitable combined vacation with this other family when you want to. If they freak out at your planning your own vacations as you see fit, then let them. Bowing to unreasonable demands because someone will make you pay emotionally if you don't is not a healthy option.

Carolyn Hax

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 57
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
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Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
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