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We all make deals with ourselves when it comes to the difficult people in our lives.

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 58
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
Columnist
Journalist
Writer
Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
Lives
Difficult
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People
Deals

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