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We all make deals with ourselves when it comes to the difficult people in our lives.

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 58
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
Columnist
Journalist
Writer
Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
Deals
Lives
Difficult
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The sudden death of a partner while expecting a child is so universally understood as awful that I don't think anyone with any other weight to carry is going to get to same kind of sympathy - except perhaps people who lose a child.
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Waiting for someone to propose to you only passes the Really, it's tradition! sniff test when both of you think it's the man's job to propose and both of you think that's awesome.
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You need to make plans for your future, so plan your own future.
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One helpful thing to keep in mind as a retort-stopper is that you won't win, you won't change anyone's mind, you won't change any votes, you won't make the atmosphere in the room any better, YOU won't feel any better.
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Separation is where you see if it works better with the adults in two different homes.
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Once given, a gift is yours to use, store or dispose of as you see fit.
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Your parents' views are, by current standards, out there. Getting in their faces about it would be needlessly disrespectful, but there's no reason for you to tiptoe through their delusional little terrarium as if you can't bend even one blade of grass.
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Moving is hard. Staying is easy. Logistically speaking, at least. And this is true whether you're doing or undoing something.
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Bodies and minds need breaks or the work suffers, this has been proven and reproven to the point where we don't even need to post links to support it.
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Separating is not divorcing. Please keep that in mind. It is, instead, the second step in seeing if there's a better way to manage your family.
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For me, the greatest source of frustration was trying to work with a willful child when there was something else I wanted - say, to get the child to go to bed so I could have my own time. Just the promise of the time, and feeling that promise slip away, was enough to introduce a whole other element of stress into the encounter.
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First group impressions can mask a lot of individual variations in the members.
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When you fail to see something, that doesn't mean I'm hiding it.
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I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.
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You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.
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I believe in innocence until there's proof of guilt and all that.
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If you take the time to listen to an upset child's story with empathy, and guide the child toward figuring out the root of the problem, then the result is often that the child not only calms down, but also in the future is less likely to get so upset.
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Sometimes the pain outweighs the good things.
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It's probably good for your body and brain to get moving occasionally.
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No matter what else comes, your courage will be your companion for life.
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