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We all make deals with ourselves when it comes to the difficult people in our lives.

Carolyn Hax

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 58
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
Columnist
Journalist
Writer
Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
Difficult
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Make
People
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Lives

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Moving is hard. Staying is easy. Logistically speaking, at least. And this is true whether you're doing or undoing something.
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It's okay to forgive yourself immediately and for good.
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For me, the greatest source of frustration was trying to work with a willful child when there was something else I wanted - say, to get the child to go to bed so I could have my own time. Just the promise of the time, and feeling that promise slip away, was enough to introduce a whole other element of stress into the encounter.
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The sudden death of a partner while expecting a child is so universally understood as awful that I don't think anyone with any other weight to carry is going to get to same kind of sympathy - except perhaps people who lose a child.
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Separating is not divorcing. Please keep that in mind. It is, instead, the second step in seeing if there's a better way to manage your family.
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When in doubt, respond to what you witness, not what you hear secondhand.
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I think a person who arranges the event and orders the food also picks up the check - even the birthday person, even when people at the table insist on paying for the birthday person.
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Plan your own vacations when you want to, and plan a suitable combined vacation with this other family when you want to. If they freak out at your planning your own vacations as you see fit, then let them. Bowing to unreasonable demands because someone will make you pay emotionally if you don't is not a healthy option.
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The topic of sexual education makes me nuts, because kids are certainly not now and have rarely ever been clueless about what adults do and delude themselves about keeping from their kids. Especially now that so many of them are carrying the entire internet around in their pockets.
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Bodies and minds need breaks or the work suffers, this has been proven and reproven to the point where we don't even need to post links to support it.
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Waiting for someone to propose to you only passes the Really, it's tradition! sniff test when both of you think it's the man's job to propose and both of you think that's awesome.
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If you're not sure what you want, then hold back from making plans or responding to invitations until you have a chance to think about it.
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Separation is where you see if it works better with the adults in two different homes.
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No matter what else comes, your courage will be your companion for life.
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Instead of talking at each other about the non-business-related contact, talk to each other about your concerns about marriage. Listen a lot, too.
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First group impressions can mask a lot of individual variations in the members.
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I believe in innocence until there's proof of guilt and all that.
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Your job is to be you, which includes being the chief beneficiary of all things you do right, the chief victim of all you do wrong, and the one person on Earth who has to live with every choice you make. As gatekeeper to your life, you’re it.
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