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A lot of support gets withheld out of fear of awkwardness and misspeaking.

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 58
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
Columnist
Journalist
Writer
Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
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Awkwardness
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Support
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If you take the time to listen to an upset child's story with empathy, and guide the child toward figuring out the root of the problem, then the result is often that the child not only calms down, but also in the future is less likely to get so upset.
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Relationships are complicated, but happiness in a relationship isn't: It's just wanting exactly what you have. Wanting something else is dispiriting.
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It's probably good for your body and brain to get moving occasionally.
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Once given, a gift is yours to use, store or dispose of as you see fit.
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There's nothing like a good family when you're really up a tree.
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We all make deals with ourselves when it comes to the difficult people in our lives.
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You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.
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Being negative is easy. There will always be a downside to everything good, a hurdle to everything desirable, a con to every pro. The real courage is in finding the good in what you have, the opportunities in every hurdle, the pros in every con.
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Sometimes the pain outweighs the good things.
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One helpful thing to keep in mind as a retort-stopper is that you won't win, you won't change anyone's mind, you won't change any votes, you won't make the atmosphere in the room any better, YOU won't feel any better.
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When in doubt, respond to what you witness, not what you hear secondhand.
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I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.
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Separation is where you see if it works better with the adults in two different homes.
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Plan your own vacations when you want to, and plan a suitable combined vacation with this other family when you want to. If they freak out at your planning your own vacations as you see fit, then let them. Bowing to unreasonable demands because someone will make you pay emotionally if you don't is not a healthy option.
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For some people, the better route for finding like-minded parents is just to get out of your house with your baby and frequent baby-friendly places.
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It's okay to forgive yourself immediately and for good.
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Instead of talking at each other about the non-business-related contact, talk to each other about your concerns about marriage. Listen a lot, too.
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Make sure you have legal cover for what you're doing.
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Waiting for someone to propose to you only passes the Really, it's tradition! sniff test when both of you think it's the man's job to propose and both of you think that's awesome.
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There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact comfortable vs. bored.
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