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Instead of talking at each other about the non-business-related contact, talk to each other about your concerns about marriage. Listen a lot, too.

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Carolyn Hax
Age: 57
Born: 1966
Born: December 5
Columnist
Journalist
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Bridgeport
Connecticut
Carolyn Hanley Hax
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If you take the time to listen to an upset child's story with empathy, and guide the child toward figuring out the root of the problem, then the result is often that the child not only calms down, but also in the future is less likely to get so upset.
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One helpful thing to keep in mind as a retort-stopper is that you won't win, you won't change anyone's mind, you won't change any votes, you won't make the atmosphere in the room any better, YOU won't feel any better.
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Apparently you have ample proof from experience that you're not going to stop world evil by debating your in-laws into submission, so it's okay to choose not to try.
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I believe in innocence until there's proof of guilt and all that.
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You need to make plans for your future, so plan your own future.
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You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.
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Sometimes the pain outweighs the good things.
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You can't make people like you under the best of circumstances, and you certainly can't make them like you while you're actively badgering them on what you perceive to be their failures of conscience.
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When in doubt, respond to what you witness, not what you hear secondhand.
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Being negative is easy. There will always be a downside to everything good, a hurdle to everything desirable, a con to every pro. The real courage is in finding the good in what you have, the opportunities in every hurdle, the pros in every con.
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Separating is not divorcing. Please keep that in mind. It is, instead, the second step in seeing if there's a better way to manage your family.
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People who make babies surrender their right to behave like them.
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When you are stuck in a group of people who merely trade turns at talking about themselves instead of actually conversing, it could be a matter of their not really knowing how to converse as opposed to being too small-minded or excessively Facebooked.
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Your job is to be you, which includes being the chief beneficiary of all things you do right, the chief victim of all you do wrong, and the one person on Earth who has to live with every choice you make. As gatekeeper to your life, you’re it.
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Plan your own vacations when you want to, and plan a suitable combined vacation with this other family when you want to. If they freak out at your planning your own vacations as you see fit, then let them. Bowing to unreasonable demands because someone will make you pay emotionally if you don't is not a healthy option.
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For some people, the better route for finding like-minded parents is just to get out of your house with your baby and frequent baby-friendly places.
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