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In sports as in child rearing, marital arguments, or tantrums, the same laws of learning apply when an emotion is encouraged and the rules permit it, it is perpetuated, not 'drained.' ... An emotion without social rules of containment and expression is like an egg without a shell: a gooey mess.

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Carol Tavris
Age: 80
Born: 1944
Born: September 17
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