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Shame cannot survive being spoken. It cannot tolerate having words wrapped around it. What it craves is secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you stay quiet, you stay in a lot of self-judgment.

Brené Brown

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Brené Brown
Age: 59
Born: 1965
Born: November 18
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